To take control of your divorce you need to prepare and be proactive. Once you have reached the decision that you will be moving forward with ending your marriage, you need to take the time to evaluate and understand your desired outcome. Once you have a clear understanding of what your goals are, you can begin taking steps to achieve those goals. Here's how to take control of your divorce.
One of the first steps is to ensure that you have a comprehensive and complete understanding of the family finances. This means you need to track down any and all financial records you can. This includes bank statements, insurance information, retirement accounts, investment accounts, and other tangible assets. Additionally, you need to understand the debts and liabilities that the family has. This includes the mortgage debt, car loans, student loans, credit card debt, and a complete understanding of the monthly bills and expenses
If children are involved it will be important for you to be able to articulate the role that you play in your children’s life, including a detailed response concerning your involvement in the day to day care of the children, to include cooking, cleaning, laundry, running errands, and the completion of other household tasks. Your role in the day-to-day care of your children could play a key role in a subsequent custody determination. If you aren’t as involved as you think you should be, this is a great time to make the changes necessary to ensure you are playing an active and engaged role in your children’s lives.
By making the necessary preparations, and taking a proactive approach to these issues, you can take control of your divorce while at the same time providing your attorney critical information necessary to successfully move your divorce forward.