A divorce is a challenging experience and it is only natural to want to get the best outcome possible at the end of the day. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to increase your chances of a favorable outcome. Six of the best ways to improve your divorce outcome are:
- Hire a competent and experienced divorce (family law) attorney: A competent and experienced divorce attorney will be able to provide you the advice and guidance that will be key to understanding what you are entitled to. Additionally, they will be able to take your stated goals and develop a strategy to help you achieve them.
- Listen to the advice your attorney provides you: You have undertaken the expenses of retaining a qualified divorce attorney to represent you during your divorce so make sure to listen to their advice. Often times clients will get so caught up in listening to stories from friends and family about how this, that, or the other happened in their divorce, and as such, they should do X, Y, or Z. I don’t doubt that these individuals have the best of intentions; however, no two situations are exactly alike. Just because something worked well for their divorce does not mean it will apply in your situation. Allow the attorney you have hired to provide you the service that you retained them to provide.
- Utilize necessary professionals: Just as a qualified divorce attorney can provide invaluable advice working through the divorce process, other professionals can also provide critical advice and support. These professional often times include mental health professionals (counselors/therapists) and financial advisors. Your ability to effectively utilize other professionals may result in a less contentious divorce, which will save costs in the end.
- Clearly identify what is most important to you: Before rushing headlong into a highly contested divorce action take some time to evaluate what your biggest priorities are at the end of the day. This will be different for everyone but being able to identify your primary goals will help your attorney to build a strategy to work towards those goals. Additionally, by clearly understanding what is most important, you will identify areas where you are willing to negotiate to preserve your priorities.
- Have realistic expectations: It is important to manage your expectations as you begin your divorce. It is wholly unrealistic to think that your divorce will have met every single one of your goals. This is why it is so important to identify your priorities and focus on them as you move forward with your divorce.
- Do not bring your children into your issues: It is incredibly unproductive to allow your children into the issues between you and your spouse and the conflict related thereto. As tempting as it may be, you must avoid trying to convince your children that your “side” is the correct side. This will only escalate tensions and will place your children in an incredibly difficult position. By shielding your children from the issues related to your divorce, it will allow them to maintain a positive and productive relationship with both parents going forward, which is a great goal to strive for at the end of the day.